Esther Perel, author of the book, “Mating in Captivity,” is an expert in the field of sex therapy. In her most recent Ted Talk, she speaks about infidelity. At one point in her talk, she mentions the differences in the discovery of an affair today, as opposed to, perhaps, in our parents, or grandparents day. She says that the discovery of an affair is like “death by a thousand cuts,” which is of course because of technology today, and what can actually be seen in e-mails and text messages. This is something I see frequently in my work with couples.