These FAQs are designed to provide a better understanding of how I work.
I’ve never been to therapy before. What can I expect?
Coming to therapy is a very courageous choice. Usually, something in our world is not going right, or perhaps we want to understand un-useful patterns that keep emerging. What you can expect in therapy is a safe and non-judgmental place to talk…just talk with a caring individual, and explore any and all of these issues, at your pace, and in your time.
Do I have to tell my deepest darkest secrets???
NO! You don’t have to reveal anything you don’t want to reveal! Therapy happens at your pace. And, if there is something that you feel is important to talk about, but are having trouble bringing up, you can just say that.
What is couples therapy all about and what if my partner does not want to attend?
Many couples, whether heterosexual or part of the LGBTQ community, have issues that create un-useful patterns in their lives. Couples therapy looks at what happens between people. What triggers each of you? Each person’s point of view is honored and respected.
It is very common for one partner to be on the fence about coming to therapy, and the truth is, no one can force them to come. It is, however, most useful for creating change, if both individuals agree to come to therapy. I am available to talk to on the phone, if anyone has questions about the process, and would like to know more, or just hear my voice, before coming to my office.
What is family therapy all about? Does the whole family need to be present every time?
Families are such important systems of people! If there is an issue in a family, everyone is impacted in some way. Does it mean everyone has to always be together? Definitely not! Does it mean there is no privacy if someone wants to say something and doesn’t want others to know? Definitely not! Family therapy will be tailored to the needs of your family. Perhaps some individuals need time alone, or perhaps the parents want to talk privately. Whatever it looks like, we will work together to help each person understand each other’s perspectives.
My adolescent wants to talk to someone, so why do I need to attend?
As parents, you are the most important people in your children’s lives! You will be there long after the therapist is out of the picture. Of course your adolescent needs a safe place to talk privately, but they also need to have good connections with their parents. It is my goal to help you and your adolescent hear and understand each other, and strengthen your relationship. This doesn’t mean that your adolescent won’t have time to themselves in therapy- they most definitely will! But, parents being a part of the process is also very important!
What is sex therapy about anyway?
People come to sex therapy for many different reasons. Discrepant desire, lack of desire, sex after menopause, interest in expanding their “sexual menu,” wanting to learn about and explore alternative sexual styles such as BDSM and kink, poly- amory…anything you could possibly think of regarding the very vast array of sexuality might bring individuals and couples to explore the option of sex therapy. Basically, helping people to have a satisfying sexual life is usually the goal, and there is no “normal” around that. It is about what you and your partner want, and are comfortable with…the possibilities are too numerous to mention them all!
What about erectile dysfunction, pre-mature ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation? Are those reasons to come for sex therapy?
Yes! These are all issues which bring people to sex therapy. You will find a safe, non-judgmental, and caring place to discuss everything.
Do I have to have a partner to come for sex therapy?
No! Individuals can also come for sex therapy. Perhaps you want to understand more about your own sexuality, or just get more comfortable with your body. Perhaps there are issues around coming out as LGBTQ. Whatever it is, you will have a safe and non-judgmental place to explore these intimate issues with a caring individual.