Every couple has different needs for a healthy relationship, Wendi Dumbroff revealed in a recent article in Martha Stewart Weddings:

You’ve think you’ve finally found the one who will listen to you vent about your obnoxious boss or will rub your feet after you’ve had a long, exhausting day. But even when your relationship looks pretty on point from the outside (and inside), science says it may not be all it’s choked up to be…or it could be even more than you bargained for.

According to Wendi L. Dumbroff, a licensed professional counselor, there is no “one truth” about what makes a healthy relationship. “What is good for Sue and Joe, may not be what works for Ashley and Sean, or Kevin and Phil, or Shannon and Jasmine,” she says. “Every couple needs to negotiate the boundaries of their relationship.” That being said, there are clear red flags that a relationship may be headed for its demise, like constant fighting and disrespecting one another. Studies also help experts determine which behaviors may be surprisingly beneficial for a relationship. We took to the experts to find out which signs say that your relationship is happy, healthy, and ready for the long haul, plus any signals that could be red flags for the future.